Background
In Shokoufimogiman v. Bozorgi, the Ontario Superior Court
of Justice addressed a
high-conflict temporary parenting motion
involving a four-and-a-half-year-old child. The father brought a
motion seeking a fundamental restructuring of the child’s living
arrangements, including primary residence with him or,
alternatively, an equal time-sharing schedule. He also sought sole
decision-making responsibility, control over the child’s
government-issued identification, and restrictions on the mother’s
travel with the child.
The mother opposed the motion in its entirety. She sought primary
care of the child, limited parenting time for the father, sole
decision-making responsibility, and possession of the child’s
passports and identification. Both parties alleged family
violence, controlling behavior, and litigation misconduct by the
other.
The parties separated in March 2022 and continued to live under
the same roof until July 2022, when the mother moved out with the
child after contacting police and the Children’s Aid Society to
implement a safety plan. Parenting arrangements quickly
deteriorated, with the father refusing to accept anything less
than a 50-50 schedule and, as a result, having no parenting time
for nearly a month.
Shortly before the motion, the father contacted police regarding
alleged assaults dating back years, resulting in criminal charges
against the mother and a criminal undertaking limiting
communication between the parties. The Court was therefore
required to determine temporary parenting and decision-making
arrangements in an atmosphere of extreme conflict, incomplete
evidence, and pending criminal and child protection processes.
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The Law
Temporary parenting motions are governed by the best interests of
the child, as set out in section 16 of the Divorce Act.
At the interim stage, courts are cautioned against making dramatic
changes to a child’s living arrangements unless there is
compelling evidence that such change is immediately required.
Key principles include:
- maintaining the status quo where possible;
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avoiding “experimentation” with a child’s life on a limited
record;
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recognizing the limits of affidavit evidence in high-conflict
cases; and
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exercising restraint where credibility disputes and serious
allegations have not been tested.
Joint decision-making responsibility requires a minimum level of
trust, communication, and cooperation. Courts will not impose it
in the hope that it will improve parental communication.
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Analysis
What Was the Court Being Asked to Decide on a Temporary Basis?
The Court was asked to determine:
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whether temporary joint or sole decision-making responsibility
was in the child’s best interests;
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what temporary parenting schedule best served the child’s needs;
and
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which parent should retain the child’s government-issued
identification.
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Should the Court Disrupt the Existing Parenting Status Quo?
No. The Court emphasized that temporary motions are not the proper
forum for dramatic restructuring of a child’s life. The evidence
was sharply conflicting, credibility could not be assessed, and an
OCL assessment was pending.
Absent compelling evidence that the child’s safety or well-being
required immediate change, the Court declined to adopt either
parent’s extreme proposal.
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Was Joint Decision-Making Responsibility Appropriate?
No. The Court found that the parties lacked the mutual trust,
communication, and cooperation required for joint decision-making
responsibility.
The criminal undertaking, mutual allegations of family violence,
repeated accusations of dishonesty, and the father’s failure to
raise safety concerns in his pleadings or Form 35.1 all
demonstrated that joint decision-making would expose the child to
ongoing conflict.
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Why Was Temporary Sole Decision-Making Responsibility Granted to
the Mother?
The Court concluded that the mother should have temporary
decision-making responsibility because:
- the parties were unable to communicate directly;
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the father appeared focused on his “rights” rather than the
child’s needs;
- the father had withheld child support after separation;
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the father’s conduct suggested a risk that decision-making
authority would be used as a tool of control; and
- stability was required pending trial and assessment.
However, the Court required the mother to consult the father in
writing and to provide him with notice of decisions, reflecting an
effort to preserve the father’s involvement without exposing the
child to conflict.
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Was an Equal Parenting Time Schedule in the Child’s Best
Interests?
No. The Court rejected the father’s proposed 50-50 schedule. Equal
parenting time for a young child requires a high degree of
coordination and cooperation, which was absent in this case.
The father’s proposed schedule would have resulted in the child
sleeping in a different home almost every night, creating
instability and excessive transitions for a preschool-aged child.
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Was the Mother’s Proposed Parenting Schedule Appropriate?
Also no. The Court found that the mother’s proposal would have
resulted in the child going up to ten days without seeing the
father, which was too long for a child of this age and
inconsistent with maintaining meaningful relationships with both
parents.
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How Did the Court Ultimately Structure the Parenting Schedule?
The Court crafted a bespoke, child-focused schedule that:
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limited the child to no more than three consecutive nights away
from either parent;
- reduced transitions;
- preserved regular contact with both parents; and
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used daycare exchanges and third-party assistance to avoid
direct parental contact.
This approach balanced stability with continuity of relationships.
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How Did the Court Treat the Allegations of Family Violence?
The Court did not make findings on the truth of the allegations,
recognizing that they were untested. However, it considered the
existence of the allegations, criminal charges, and safety plan as
relevant context when assessing communication, trust, and the
appropriateness of joint decision-making.
The Court was particularly troubled by the timing of the father’s
police complaint and his failure to raise alleged violence earlier
in the proceedings.
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Who Should Retain the Child’s Government-Issued Identification?
The Court ordered that the mother retain the child’s passports and
identification, while requiring her to provide copies to the
father. Given the allegations, criminal undertaking, and travel
concerns, this arrangement best protected the child while
preserving transparency.
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Conclusion
Shokoufimogiman v. Bozorgi is a textbook example of
judicial restraint in high-conflict temporary parenting disputes.
The decision reinforces that:
- temporary motions are not trials;
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stability and predictability are paramount for young children;
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joint decision-making cannot function without trust and
communication; and
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courts will intervene to prevent parental control dynamics from
harming children.
Rather than choosing between polarized positions, the Court
crafted a balanced interim solution designed to protect the child
until a fuller evidentiary record could be developed through
assessment or trial.
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